real relationships
Do you have your eyes open sometimes to the actuality of things? Yes we all know that I have some insecurity issues, however when someone outside your world looks at your situation says to you…this isn’t the way it should be. It stops you for a moment and you look at your situation and you say, ya know, you are right.
We all do it, we all want to blame someone or something else for our problems. However, you get down to the bottom line and you know, only you can make yourself feel a certain way or not. I had some friends a year or so ago who tried to make you feel that everything in their life was bad because of things I did or did not do. I have found myself in a similar situation. It didn’t matter what I did or what I said, it was never the right thing. I am worth so much more than that. Doesn’t mean that I was perfect NOT by ANY case of the means. I have my insecurities…however….
I am worth being loved and I am a generous, loving, and well from what I am told beautiful person. I think that communication of one’s true intentions is very important. As much as I have tried…I can not read minds. The Force is strong with me, but not that strong.
I am to a point where I want to be healthier and relationships are work, they are HARD work. A true relationship where each of you is equal, where you challenge each other to grow, where you look at yourself and say, what can I do to be a better person. This is what I hear from all my friends who have healthy marriages…which is the only way I am willing to be.
I was watching a movie the other day, Failure to Launch, one of the characters asked the other, do you love him? She said with my whole heart…he said then you will find a way to make it work. That is just it...you find a way, it isn’t about how much someone can boost your ego…that is shallow and fleeting.
It is when you can look at a person see their faults and say, you know what I love you anyway and I will work with you to see this through. That is what real love and a real relationship are about.
So you can choose to let yourself feel worthless and not loved or you can stop and say you know. I am worth something and if someone else can't see that, then there is nothing I can do at this point. Sooo there you go.
Just my two cents for the day….
We all do it, we all want to blame someone or something else for our problems. However, you get down to the bottom line and you know, only you can make yourself feel a certain way or not. I had some friends a year or so ago who tried to make you feel that everything in their life was bad because of things I did or did not do. I have found myself in a similar situation. It didn’t matter what I did or what I said, it was never the right thing. I am worth so much more than that. Doesn’t mean that I was perfect NOT by ANY case of the means. I have my insecurities…however….
I am worth being loved and I am a generous, loving, and well from what I am told beautiful person. I think that communication of one’s true intentions is very important. As much as I have tried…I can not read minds. The Force is strong with me, but not that strong.
I am to a point where I want to be healthier and relationships are work, they are HARD work. A true relationship where each of you is equal, where you challenge each other to grow, where you look at yourself and say, what can I do to be a better person. This is what I hear from all my friends who have healthy marriages…which is the only way I am willing to be.
I was watching a movie the other day, Failure to Launch, one of the characters asked the other, do you love him? She said with my whole heart…he said then you will find a way to make it work. That is just it...you find a way, it isn’t about how much someone can boost your ego…that is shallow and fleeting.
It is when you can look at a person see their faults and say, you know what I love you anyway and I will work with you to see this through. That is what real love and a real relationship are about.
So you can choose to let yourself feel worthless and not loved or you can stop and say you know. I am worth something and if someone else can't see that, then there is nothing I can do at this point. Sooo there you go.
Just my two cents for the day….
posted by mel at 11:05 AM
